Behaviours

The Secret to Changing Rebellious Teens

“Little children, headache; big children, heartache.” –Italian Proverb

Bringing up a child is tough for sure but parenting a teen is the REAL job. Teens are hard to deal with because they require freedom which parents fear to give; actually teenage is the time period when a child is observing the biggest changes in his life, from his own body to the society, so acts differently. Some adolescents becomes ‘out of control’ that may be because of how he is SEEING the world and dealing with peer pressure and so he himself want to be an adult, as adults have the powers teens don’t. “The young always have the same problem — how to rebel and conform at the same time. They have now solved this by defying their parents and copying one another.” –Quentin Crisp

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Understand ’em

Teens are just the growing up kids; they are not any giants that parents should be afraid of, the only thing important here is HOW MUCH YOU KNOW AND UNDERSTAND YOUR KID.  “Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.” –Virginia Satir

Give ‘necessary’ freedom

Giving necessary freedom might make your relationship better and bring the strayed bird back to nest. They want their freedom, and they want to do everything they want regardless of the good or bad. Can you allow that? Of course not, as a parent you will always WORRY. So set some limits of freedom and confine your growing pal to those freedom conditions. Why do children want to grow up? Because they experience their lives as constrained by immaturity and perceive adulthood as a condition of greater freedom and opportunity. But what is there today, in America, that very poor and very rich adolescents want to do but cannot do? Not much: they can “do” drugs, “have” sex, “make” babies, and “get” money (from their parents, crime, or the State). For such adolescents, adulthood becomes synonymous with responsibility rather than liberty. Is it any surprise that they remain adolescents?” –Thomas Szasz

Set the rules for all and strict to ‘em

Rebellion can be dealt with strict rules and a strong parent-children relationship. Set clear rules and make them followed by everyone including YOU the parents.

Keep eye on him!

“You can tell a child is growing up when he stops asking where he came from and starts refusing to tell where he is going.” –Unknown
you might not physically always be able to watch your kid though you can keep a third eye or a spy friend of him.

Model discipline

“The average teenager still has all the faults his parents outgrew.” –Unknown

You can never make your child follow rules and discipline and behave as you want them to unless you do so. You have to be a role model for your kid. For dealing with rebels you will have to be more cautious then younger kids.

Make home pleasant

A number of teenagers become rebels due to unpleasant atmosphere at home. If parents fights, don’t show respect, or they don’t give enough time to home and kids then they problem begins so avoid all the arguments and fights keep the peaceful so your children love to stay home.“The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.” –Dorothy Parker

Cut the pocket money

This method should be adopted when nothing works and If you do this make sure your kid doesn’t get in trouble making habits or situations like theft, robbery etc. “If you want to recapture your youth, just cut off his allowance.” –Al Bernstein

 



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Shazmin

Shazmin

Shazmin is an Art enthusiast, freelancer and Blog writer, writes on Human Behavior, fitness, Education and others. Opts to learn everyday. Appreciate being incomparable, loves her work and Robustly Believes in Karma - "You served with what you deserve."
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