How to Stay Strong When your Heart is Broken

We as a whole experience sorrows in our lives that turn us despair and dismal. Nothing feels more regrettable than a broken heart, the kind you get when somebody you cherish ends the relationship, you fail at your life goals or when your friends abandon you. Sentiments of disgrace, regret, anguish, rage, and terror can overwhelm even the most stable individual. Heartbreak has the ability to reframe a workable life as a catastrophe.

“There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.” –Malcolm X


Accept the reality

As soon as you accept the reality you start to get normal. Accept the pain and see the sure not the source of pain. According to the Scientists it is proved that when someone feels emotional pain he feels physical pain as well.

Cry once

Don’t just hold the tears and cry inside, cry for once and let all the heartache go. Let the burden, regrets, agony follow away with tears and forgive. “Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
― Steve Maraboli

Write it as a lesson

Writing your feelings releases stress and you will feel lighter. Write the cause of your broken heart as an experience and what you have learned from it. “Sometimes a little heartbreak is a lesson, and the best thing to do is just learn the lesson.” –Jon Voight

Read and learn from your writing

After you have written your story read it and learns from it. Once you have done reading throw away the diary or journal.

Treasure yourself

No relationship is important than your relationship with yourself. “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” –Buddha

Don’t be disgraced by anyone not by YOURSELF

Respect yourself and embrace yourself, you are a whole person and there is no one like you. At the times of heartbreaks this is what you should be reminding yourself.
It is better to die than to preserve this life by incurring disgrace. The loss of life causes but a moment’s grief, but disgrace brings grief every day of one’s life”. –Chanakya

Divert your attention to your skills

Over thinking causes depression, stop thinking too much about what has happened and divert your attention to yourself and your skill, love what you do and do what you love. “Do not dwell in the past; do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” –Buddha

Get help

If you feel too burdened, talk to a friend. Share your feelings. Go shopping with a friend; treat yourself with new stuff you wanted to buy.


Exercising is best for getting relief from the depression and stress. Do exercise regularly and take care of your health.


Nothing can make you feel happier than making others happy. “Doing nothing for others is the undoing of ourselves.” ― Horace Mann

“To ease another’s heartache is to forget one’s own.”
― Abraham Lincoln

Reminder: You worth more than what you couldn’t achieve or win, be patient and wait for the good coming your way.

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