“The unhappiest people in this world are those who care the most about what other people think.”
It is exhausting to think all the time what other people think about us and living our lives according to what others perceive from our words, actions, body language, appearance, lifestyle etc.
We start each and every day thinking and caring about what thoughts others possess in their minds, about us. We dress up keeping in mind how is it going to look at me. We think while speaking at our peers would be thinking about us. We care about what people are saying behind it.
Why do we care so much about what other people think about us?
This way we can’t live our life. We get totally molded according to the choice of others. I must say believe it or not, we are not so special that others might care about what we do. While caring about what people think about us, we lose our own identity.
If you really want to live happily, keep a few things in your mind. Once you understand that this is how people’s mind work, it’s a big step towards freedom. Just follow the given suggestions and get yourself set free:
People keep on changing their thoughts:
Word is in transition and so people are. We don’t have a specific and fixed personality. As the people change so do their views, ideas and opinions. It shows that even if somebody thinks atrociously for you at the moment, it might possible that they will think in a different way in future. In short, it really does not make any difference what people think of you.
Life is too short:
You live once, only. It is priceless. Once it is gone, you can’t get it back.
Why would you spend it worrying about people and their thinking? You are strongly suggested to do whatever you want to do and be whatever you want to be. If you keep on making efforts for making such people happy all your life, you will find it useless at the end. You don’t live with everyone all of your life. Probably, you won’t see many of them after a year or two.
Live your life to the maximum without worrying about the thoughts and opinions of others, about you.
You get what you give:
If you adopt the behaviors as an effort to make sure that other people like you, it can actually become a reason of to be disliked by others. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy when you worry too much about what people think of you. Never indulge yourself in a need to be liked by others.
No one has time to think about you:
People never spend time in thinking about you until or unless you directly affect their lives. Otherwise, they have nothing to do with your life and ways of living it. They don’t usually think outside themselves. So just neglect the thought that stop giving importance to what people think about you.
This is solely your life:
The life is yours so the choices should also be yours. Let the people think what they do think. You just need to think about what you do want. People can’t change what your worth is. Live your life and don’t let others to poke their nose in your matters.
They know nothing what is good for you:
It is only you who knows what is good or bad for you. Learn from your own choices and make decisions about your life. Take responsibilities for decisions you have taken. You are only investment in your life. No one else is ever going to be invested in your life. For instance if you fail, after making your own choice, you will learn from the failure instead of blaming others doe it.
It won’t let you chase your dreams:
Thinking about what other people think about you doesn’t let you remain what you actually are. Even you forget about your choices and dreams and start making efforts to fulfill other’s expectations. By adopting this way you would never be able to reach where you need to go in your life. Whatever you do, you won’t ever each the standards of others. SO just stop being worried about what they think and chase your dreams.
You can’t please everyone:
This is a universal fact that you can’t please everyone all of the time. No one can come up with everyone’s expectations and it is verily useless to make such kind of efforts in your life because it very clearly impossible. So, it is strongly recommended to you please yourself, only.