It is exciting to plan a wedding, especially when it is yours. But sometimes it might be quite stressful and aggravating. Planning a wedding involves coming up with traditional, cultural and social expectations while keeping everyone pleased and satisfied.
While planning your wedding, you might get the feeling like you are planning the wedding for everyone but yourself. A wedding planning without arguments can never be completed. Sometimes, it can all become a little too much to tolerate. Here are some ideas for such situations which might keep you from being aggressive and moving forward with your plans happily.
Please note that the words “fight” and “fighting fair” are used below to mean expressing one’s disagreement or anger to another constructively. At no time should physical harm be considered “fighting fair.”
Get acquainted with your feelings
It is very important to know what actually you feel. It is essential to be in touch with your own sentiments before you can successfully manage a disagreement.
Understand – anger is an emotion, neither right, nor wrong
It is important to understand what gave rise to the feelings. Feelings never die but when you take a noxious step as a result of a feeling, mortality may come into play.
It is essential to negotiate
At some moment, agree that none of you would win an argument. Losing the argument may bring bitterness in the relationship and it may ultimately be damaged which is hurtful for both the partners. Even if one is wrong, the other should permit his/her respect and approval.
Permit the other to cool off
This is a better idea to provide the other person some time to become cool. You can engage yourself in some other activity in order to allow the anger of other person to go away. This time may allow the other person to think over the reason of arguments and they might feel that they were not supposed to react this way.
Don’t argue without other’s willingness
If you have a contradictive opinion, be sure not to have an argument when the other person is not able to have a warm discussion over the topic. Both of you should be ready to have an argument.
Discuss one issue at a time
When you find there are number of issues which are arising, you should not bombard the other person with all of the complaints, rather present them one at a time. It will definitely prevent the matter to be solved if you will shoot the broadside like roaring cannon.
Explain the problem clearly
There should be no ambiguity in explaining the issue; it may give rise to misunderstandings. Be clear in whatever you say.
Let other express what they feel
You can never find a solution of a problem until or unless each of you gave the same chance to express their feelings, information and idea. Therefore, you should provide the other one with the enough time and space to express what they feel.
Try to develop humor
Humor is something which turns the situation completely. Its goes a long way towards promoting the healing. It changes the mood of the situation and brings relaxing consequences.
Don’t extend the argument
Try not to transform an argument into a fight. Keep your fight to yourself and never let is extend. In case, if there is more serious issues then go for a counselor.