It is tricky for most of the parents to keep the doors of communication open for their children which may place a gap between both the generations. You can do a lot of various things In order to improve the two-way communication with your child. If you want to develop the listening habit of your child and get them listen to you follow the given suggestions:
Listen to your child
Listen to your child the same way you want to be listened by them. First be an example by listening them carefully and then you may expect the same from them. Make your child feel important especially at times when they are talking to you. It will make them much more willing to listen to you when you will be speaking to them.
Let your child complete first
Don’t speak until your child stops speaking otherwise your child may think they way like this is just a waste of time to talk to you. So, let the complete first then say whatever you want to say.
Establish eye contact
Making an eye contact with your children will make them feel you are listening to them carefully while of you glancing out of the window or peering across the room even while still listening to them carefully might make them feel you are not listening and paying attention to them. Establish eye contact not only but listening but also when you are speaking to your child.
Be careful about your tone and facial expressions
It is very often that your tone, postures and gestures speak louder than your words. If they feel like you are getting bore while listening to them and not paying attention, they will act the same way while you will be speaking. So, control your facial expressions and never let them feel as their words are worthless.
Know the common interest through talk
In order to facilitate the communication it is important to talk to your child about the areas of common interest. This trick will increase the relevance of conversation and your child will be more likely to listen and understand you.
Try to see the things they way your child sees
Making your child feel that you are actually listening to their point of you would make your child surprisingly vulnerable to talk to you. If they feel like you won’t understand what their point of view is, they might consider is useless to have a conversation with you.
Control your harsh reactions
Don’t be defensive and harsh even if you don’t like what your child is talking about and you find no agreeableness with what their view point is. If you react this way, it may break down the conversation and the child may have the feeling of being accused of something. Shutting down the communication will lead to no further talks as you will be considered harsh and closed-minded.
Have a talk, don’t lecture
Be friendly with your child. Don’t make them feel that you are criticizing, rebuking or criticizing them. Have a cordial talk with your child.
Known when to talk or when not to talk
It is of utmost importance to know when you should talk or when to stay quiet. Talk only when you expect them to listen to your well-intentioned words. Don’t get into talk when your child comes back from the school. Let him take rest first.
Children are sometimes moody and unpredictable and parents can easily determine when its best time to talk.